Seattle Gay Bars, Clubs, and Restaurants

Seattle Gay Bars

Queer Bar
Live entertainment at a hip gay venue offering a full bar & a menu of bar snacks.
thequeerbar.com

Seattle Gay Eagle
Classic gay leather bar with theme nights, pool, a back deck & dark, chain-link-fence decor.
www.seattleeagle.com

The Cuff Complex
Gay entertainment multiplex with 3 bars, dance club & patio often attracts a leather-clad crowd.
cuffcomplex.com

Pony
A 1930s-era gas station now houses this gay bar with a tiny dance floor, outdoor patio & fire pit.
ponyseattle.com

Madison Pub
Relaxed, gay-friendly bar offering beer & cocktails, plus TV sports, pool, darts & a jukebox.
madisonpub.com

Union Seattle
Airy bar & eatery with a leafy patio serving cocktails alongside hearty comfort food & happy hours.
www.unionseattle.com

Wildrose
One of the oldest lesbian bars on the West Coast, offering DJs, karaoke & seasonal outdoor seating.
thewildrosebar.com


Upstairs Inferno: The Deadly 1973 Gay Bar Arson

Upstairs Inferno

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On June 24, 1973, an arsonist set fire to the Up Stairs Lounge, a gay bar located on the edge of the French Quarter in New Orleans, Louisiana. The fire ultimately killed 32 people and severely injured countless others. Some bodies were never identified. One-third of the New Orleans chapter of the Metropolitan Community Church were killed in the blaze, including two clergy. The primary suspect was never charged with the crime. The tragedy did not stop at the loss of lives. There were also the delayed injuries: lost jobs, fear, public ridicule and severed families. The devastation was compounded by the homophobic reactions and utter lack of concern by the general public, government and religious leaders. The fire permanently altered lives and was the root of many lifelong struggles. Despite the staggering historical significance, few people know about the tragedy.

With unique access (on-camera interviews from survivors, witnesses and friends/families of victims) and a fresh perspective (incorporating long lost artifacts, newsreel footage and photographs that haven’t been seen in decades), Upstairs Inferno vividly examines this oft-forgotten story and is considered the most authoratative film about the tragedy and its aftermath.

Narrated by New Orleans own New York Times best-selling author Christopher Rice, Upstairs Inferno (96 min) is a mesmerizing mix of crime drama and human connections that captures the heartbreaking feelings of unconditional love and overwhelming loss. An unsettling snapshot of what was, until the early hours of June 12, 2016, the deadliest single event to affect the gay community in American history, Upstairs Inferno gets inside the hearts and minds of a handful of vibrant people who experienced one of the most important and underreported moments in LGBT History.

“While Upstairs Inferno recounts a historic event that occurred in the U.S., its underlying message crosses cultural boundaries”, Director Robert L. Camina emphasizes. “It’s easier for people to hate and fear things they don’t understand. No matter your background or how you identify, in the end, we are more alike than we are different. I think Upstairs Inferno reminds of us that.”

“We made the film hoping audiences would walk away from it with a renewed call for compassion: Compassion for those unlike us. Compassion for those who are hurting. Compassion for those in need. Because there definitely wasn’t a lot of compassion when the deadly arson occurred.”

“Sadly, a lot has happened in the world since the film premiered and we began spreading the message of compassion and the impact of hate”, Camina continues. “It sickens me that mass murders have become so common. I think Upstair Inferno’s message is as timely as ever: the power of family, friends and forgiveness in the shadow of immense pain. Hopefully, by the Up Stairs Lounge Arson survivors sharing their stories, it can provide strength to others in need.”

“Over five years ago, when I decided to tell this long overdue story, I didn’t want to make a film that was simply a stagnant exposition of facts. I wanted to humanize the story and put faces on the tragedy. I wanted to honor the victims and all those impacted by the tragedy, giving them the respect and dignity they were denied so many years ago”, Camina continues.

“As we observe the 45th Anniversary of the deadly arson, I’m grateful that Upstairs Inferno is now accessible to audiences around the world via streaming platforms, because the victims, their loved ones and their stories should never be forgotten again.”

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CHRISTOPHER RICE (Narrator) Famed New Orleanian and New York Times best selling author provides UPSTAIRS INFERNO with a thought provoking, pitch perfect narration, sensitively complimenting the film’s emotionally raw interviews. He is the head writer and an executive producer of THE VAMPIRE CHRONICLES, a television show based on the bestselling novels by his mother, Anne Rice. Together they penned RAMSES THE DAMNED: THE PASSION OF CLEOPATRA, a sequel to her bestselling novel THE MUMMY OR RAMSES THE DAMNED. His most recent novel, BONE MUSIC, was released in early 2018. Much of his writing is heavily influenced by the years he and his Mom lived in New Orleans. Rice considers New Orleans his hometown.

ROBERT L. CAMINA (Writer/Director/Producer) wrote, directed and produced several short films before premiering his first full length documentary, RAID OF THE RAINBOW LOUNGE (2012) to sold out audiences, rave reviews and a media frenzy. RAID OF THE RAINBOW LOUNGE recounts the widely publicized and controversial June 28, 2009 police raid of a Fort Worth, Texas gay bar that resulted in multiple arrests and serious injuries. The raid occurred on the 40th Anniversary of the Stonewall Inn raid. The film, narrated by TV icon Meredith Baxter, screened during 33 mainstream and LGBT film festivals across the world. The film won 11 awards including 8 BEST Film Awards. The film also received attention from the Office of the White House, Department of Justice and a division of the U.S. State Department. In 2015, Camina premiered his second full length documentary, UPSTAIRS INFERNO. Camina is honored that BOTH documentaries received invitations to screen at the Library of Congress. Camina also takes pride in being a public speaker, concentrating on LGBT history and LGBT rights.

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San Francisco Gay Bars, Clubs, and Restaurants

San Francisco Gay Bars

San Francisco Eagle Bar
Revival of a legendary LBGT leather bar with periodic drag shows, theme nights & big heated patio.
thesfeagle.com

Powerhouse
Anything-goes gay leather bar with basic decor, stiff drinks & weekend crowds in the mood to cruise.
powerhousebar.com

Cinch Saloon
Old-guard gay bar with potent drinks, smoking patio, pool, pinball, DJs & no pretensions.
fb.com/thecinchsaloon

Oasis
Sprawling gay nightspot in a former bathhouse featuring cabaret & drag shows, DJs & dance parties.
www.sfoasis.com

440 Castro
Drinks & events (Underwear Night Mondays) draw casual, bearded crowds to this local gay hangout.
www.the440.com

Midnight Sun
Eyes are on the videos at this Castro gay bar with strong drinks & a mixed crowd.
www.midnightsunsf.com

Toad Hole Bar
Versatile space draws gay crowds with DJs, a lengthy bar, a smoke-friendly patio & happy hours.
www.toadhallbar.com

Ginger’s
A casual gathering spot for beer, wine & cocktails named for San Francisco’s historic haunts.
www.gingers.bar

Twin Peaks Tavern
Gay bar serving classic cocktails & beers on tap, also boasts vintage furniture & big glass windows.
www.twinpeakstavern.com

Aunt Charlie’s Lounge
Eclectic Tenderloin gay bar known for really cheap drinks & drag shows on select evenings.
auntcharlieslounge.com

The Mix
This small gay bar has a patio & pool table, plus frequent happy-hour specials.
fb.com/mixsf










Positive Thoughts: The Activist Doctor

Demetre Daskalakis

Demetre Daskalakis, MD, MPH, is tackling HIV prevention nationally
By Alicia Green

Demetre Daskalakis, MD, MPH, remembers the day he felt called to become an HIV doctor: April 23, 1995. He was a college student working on a display for the AIDS Memorial Quilt when he witnessed people paying homage to their lost loved ones.

“I remember saying, ‘My job is to not let anybody get sick or die from HIV/AIDS,’” says Daskalakis, the director of the Division of HIV/AIDS Prevention at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

But Daskalakis, 47, is not your average doctor — he’s also a gay activist with strong ties to the LGBTQ+ community.

“When I realized that the single largest health threat to my community was HIV, the intersection became really clear for me,” Daskalakis explains. “It’s important and possible to be both a physician and an activist and to work in government and have an activist heart.”

For eight years, he was an attending physician at the New York University School of Medicine before serving as the medical director of three HIV clinics at Mount Sinai hospital.

In 2014, Daskalakis joined the New York City health department as assistant commissioner of HIV/AIDS prevention and control, his first job in public health.

Daskalakis was promoted to deputy commissioner of disease control in 2017. During his three years in that role, he led NYC’s “Ending the Epidemic” initiative and helped reduce HIV diagnoses to a historic low.

Having effectively reduced HIV transmissions and deaths in America’s largest city, Daskalakis is now tackling HIV at the national level. Since December 2020, Daskalakis has led HIV prevention efforts at the CDC. He aims to apply what he learned in New York City to the epidemic across the country.

Health equity is top of mind for Daskalakis. He plans to identify ways to improve HIV outcomes for all by interrupting racism, sexism and other isms. Additionally, as the senior COVID-19 data and engagement equity lead at the CDC, he has been tasked with ensuring a fair and equal distribution of COVID-19 vaccines. 

“We also want to really identify ways that we can cross-link HIV with STDs [sexually transmitted diseases] and viral hepatitis as well as mental health and drug user health to be able to achieve a more global approach to addressing syndemics,” he explains.

Daskalakis also hopes to eliminate the divide between people living with HIV and those who could benefit from prevention strategies through what he calls “status-neutral care” — giving patients the same initial treatment and care regardless of HIV status.

“The status-neutral framework is addressing stigma at its root,” he says. “Let’s not worry about building a service based on a test result. Let’s worry about who the people are and what we can do to make them comfortable getting services and care.”

Despite being called a “radical doctor” (for doing outreach at sex clubs, for example), Daskalakis insists that what makes him stand out in the fight against HIV is his love for the communities affected by the virus.

“All I’ve ever done is listen and learn,” Daskalakis says. “When you listen to the community and the science and figure out how to marry them, really good things happen.”

Alicia Green is an assistant editor for POZ. This column is a project of TheBody, Plus, Positively Aware, POZ and Q Syndicate, the LGBTQ+ wire service. Visit their websites http://thebody.com, http://hivplusmag.com, http://positivelyaware.com and http://poz.com for the latest updates on HIV/AIDS.

Conor Leach: The Crazy Side of Queer Connection

Conor Leach

‘Sequin In a Blue Room’ star Conor Leach talks playing a slutty queer teen
By Lawrence Ferber

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Raging hormones barely explain the behavior of Sequin, a gay 16-year-old high school student who who wears a shirt embossed with glittery discs while hooking up with anonymous guys in the director Samuel Van Grivsen’s audacious, erotic and suspenseful feature debut, “Sequin in a Blue Room.”

Played by Brisbane-raised bisexual actor Conor Leach in a fearless breakout performance, the secretive Sequin lives with his well-meaning, patient single father (Jeremy Lindsay Taylor) while screwing strangers on a strict one-time-only basis (once out the door, he deletes their respective profiles from his hookup app). Yet when Sequin’s invited to a sex party, he connects with a young Black guy (Samuel Barrie) on a level he hasn’t felt before and finds himself wanting seconds. This leads Sequin to break his cardinal rule and meet again with B (Ed Wightman), an older man who can lead him to the mysterious hottie again but soon proves manipulative, dangerous and determined to keep Sequin for himself.

At least in conversation, Leach, comparatively loquacious and well-adjusted, is nothing like the enigmatic Sequin. The actor earned a theater degree at Melbourne’s Victorian College of the Arts in 2017, scored an agent through a graduate showcase, and will next appear in the Aussie TV miniseries “New Gold Mountain.” Here, Leach chats about the film, hookup apps and the status of that sequin shirt.

The films been called a coming-of-age thriller. Do you agree with that description?

Yeah, I think that’s pretty accurate. In the end it’s a film about someone trying to find their way out of loneliness. In that way, it’s “coming-of-gay.” It’s funny, because we filmed so much material that didn’t make it to the final cut that made it more of a drama. But seeing it for the first time I was shocked by how much of a genre film it is. It’s a thriller through and through and amazing to see a queer story told through those conventions.

Can you elaborate on the material that was cut out?

Sam cut out a whole storyline, actually, that aimed to give a little more context around the character. I remember he said he edited the film back to how it originally was in the first draft, which was a thriller, quick and fast, to shock the viewers. Some of the scenes that didn’t make it were beautiful and, in a way, it’s unfortunate they didn’t make it. But the final product, I think, is better for it.

Hello Blu-ray extras! How are you most like Sequin?

I struggle with this question, because I get asked how I relate to the character a lot, but I think part of acting is [thinking] nothing that this human [I’m playing] does is alien to me. If I was in these circumstances, I would do these things. But what I related to most was he just fears loneliness and a lot of us are afraid to admit that. I look back on who I was when I was 16, and I needed connection and love and we all still do, and I also wanted to appear strong and resilient. He wants to appear he has everything under control, and I definitely wanted to seem that way.

Conversely, how are you most unlike Sequin? Clearly youre not as economical, shall we say, with your words!

Yeah, I was watching the film thinking, “Sequin just does not speak! Use your words!” I’d say I’m more of a rule abider. I don’t like to rock the boat. On the surface I’m much more subservient to authority, and I can’t see myself doing anything as reckless as Sequin when I was 16.

I assume that means you werent trolling the apps during high school, either.

No. I was a goody-goody. I was a teacher’s pet! On the surface I was very different.

Why does Sequin cut people off, both the guys he hooks up with and even his own father, whom he keeps in the dark about what hes up to despite the guys clear desire to love, understand and protect his son?

While we were shooting I developed a detailed backstory that shined a light on how Sequin became like this. I wanted to know what happened and what motivated his actions. I genuinely can’t remember too much now, but I think Sequin loves the power it gives him. The sense of being desired after the encounter. You see that in the scene with B, when B says, “I’d love to see you again,” and Sequin says, “I don’t really see people twice,” and B asks, “Is that everyone or just me?” Sequin gets off on that, and it’s exactly what he wants. The sense of power and control it gives him — the sense of power that’s been robbed of him in other aspects of his life, I guess.

I read that Sam had his own idea of Sequins backstory and you compared notes after shooting and they differed wildly.

Sam never actually talked to me in too much detail about his vision for the character’s past. My imagining of Sequin’s upbringing was quite different in terms of the amount of privilege he had, his relation with his mum, even what his real name is. He gave me that creative license. I remember explaining my ideas to him after the film and he was like, “Oh my goodness, I would have been worried if you expressed all this to me before the shoot!” But that’s all work the audience doesn’t need to see. That’s for the actor. So I was very thankful we didn’t need to speak of it during the shoot.

To prepare for the role, did you spend a lot of time on hookup apps or ask friends about their crazier app experiences?

Yeah, I definitely looked into it. Oh goodness me. I heard some absolute doozies.

Would you be amused to learn that someone had a profile with your photo and Sequins name on Grindr now?

(Laughs.) Power to them. You do you.

Youre wearing a nice ochre-toned sweater today, Conor, but Ive got to ask: Wheres the sequin shirt, and do you ever pull it out on occasion?

I did _not_ keep it. Sam kept it and lost it — for a little while, it went missing — but it was so smelly and rancid. I cannot stress enough: It was rank, because it couldn’t be washed! It was meticulously sequined and lined; it was so stinky. But Sam keeps it hidden away so people don’t convulse, I guess!

Sequin gave off a mermaid vibe, almost, by wearing that shirt. And theres even a bit where B discovers one of its scales left behind on the bed. What was the intent?

It’s kind of an abstract choice that asks the audience to have their own associations and resonances. I very much developed my own backstory of how he might have come across this shirt or made it, but I don’t think I regarded it in quite that abstract associative way. They had it made for the film, though. It was still being finished on day one of the shoot! It took ages!

Has the film caused any controversy in Australia because the character is 16 and already has a prolific sex life? After all, the country has seen waves of moral panic about teenage sexuality over the years, notably some specifically over the work of acclaimed photographer Bill Henson.

I don’t think it’s caused controversy. I know there are people in Australia who wouldn’t like it. But we’ve been thrilled with the response it’s had in Australia. The conversations it’s started are amazing. Festival screenings are incredible. When I read the script, I thought, “I haven’t read something this bold and ambitious, let alone in Australia.” There’s still deep, deep conservatism here, so I’m very proud of how the film addressed something that needs to be addressed.

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It’s Called Polyamory

It's Called Polyamory

It’s Called “Polyamory”: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships

The time has come to tell your friends and family about your preference for nonmonogamy. You’re on the cusp of self-liberation—so why does it feel so daunting, or even scary, like you’re about to confess to some sinister transgression? This is normal. You are not alone. Even in progressive families and communities, people who practice nonmonogamy are susceptible to misinformation and accusations of moral and emotional failings. Facing this requires its own coming out and education process.

Let this book be your roadmap for explaining the expansive intricacies of the consensual nonmonogamy spectrum. Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles fuse personal experience and community research to break down the various incarnations of polyamorous relationship structures, the intersections of polyamory with race and gender, and the seemingly esoteric jargon of the lifestyle. If you absolutely have to explain what a “unicorn hunter” is to your auntie, Tamara has you covered.

“Can poly people raise children? Can they live normal, healthy lives?” Such questions, grounded in myths typical of those faced by sexual minorities, are eloquently answered, and the real dangers of being out as poly in a monogamy-centered society are frankly laid bare.

No matter the conversation you’re going in, It’s Called “Polyamory” helps you come out confident.

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It’s Called “Polyamory”: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships

Chicago Gay Bars, Clubs, and Restaurants

Gay Bars Chicago

Side Track
Behomoth gay club drawing a diverse crowd, serving up slushy drinks & known for showtune nights.
www.sidetrackchicago.com

Second Story Bar
Small, old-school, cash-only local gay bar tucked away in low-lit digs above Sayat Nova restaurant.
www.facebook.com/secondstorybar

Progress Bar
Hip nightclub offering craft brews, DJs & dancing in flashy digs with a huge lightbulb sculpture.
progressbarchicago.com

Roscoe’s Tavern
Neighborhood gay & lesbian bar dating back to 1987 with a dance floor, pool table & outdoor spaces.
www.roscoes.com

Lark Chicago
Lark’s dining experience is hip, friendly and fun, perfect for date night, groups, weekday dinner or weekend brunch with the family in Boystown.
www.larkchicago.com

The Closet
Opened in 1978, this tiny, unpretentious LGBT bar features dancing, games & karaoke.
theclosetchicago.com



Photo of Lark Patio by Kurman Communications

Raising Rosie: Parenting an Intersex Child

Raising Rosie

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When their daughter Rosie was born, Eric and Stephani Lohman found themselves thrust into a situation they were not prepared for. Born intersex – a term that describes people who are born with a variety of physical characteristics that do not fit neatly into traditional conceptions about male and female bodies – Rosie’s parents were pressured to consent to normalizing surgery on Rosie, without being offered any alternatives despite their concerns.

Part memoir, part guidebook, this powerful book tells the authors’ experience of refusing to have Rosie operated on and how they raised a child who is intersex. The book looks at how they spoke about the condition to friends and family, to Rosie’s teachers and caregivers, and shows how they plan on explaining it to Rosie when she is older. This uplifting and empowering story is a must read for all parents of intersex children.

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Follow Friday: Inspiring Black Trans Women

Black Trans Women

This Follow Friday is an opportunity to celebrate some amazing black trans women.   Black trans women face significant challenges in our society.   The US Trans Survey reports that trans women of color are more than twice as likely to be living in poverty and four times more likely to be unemployed.   The HIV rate among black trans women was an astounding 19%.   Black trans women, however, cannot simply be reduced to a collection of risk factors.  The amazing women below are each succeeding in their respective fields and fighting back against racism, transphobia, and misogyny along the way.

Alexandra Grey

Alexandra Gray
Alexandra Gray

twitter.com/1alexandragrey

Actress Alexandra Grey had a standout cameo performance on season three of the Amazon series Transparent, portraying a trans teenager in foster care (a story line that mirrors her own life).  You may also remember Alexandra from her portrayal of trans activist Marsha P. Johnson in an amazing Stonewall themed episode of Drunk History.

Thankfully, we will be seeing much more of Alexandra in the future.   She has a recurring role on the miniseries When We Rise.  This highly anticipated series, written and produced by Academy Award Winner Dustin Lance Black, tells the history of the LGBT rights movement in the United States beginning with the Stonewall riots.

Monica Roberts

Monica Roberts
Monica Roberts

twitter.com/transgriot

Monica Roberts, AKA the TransGriot (Gree-oh) is a native Houstonian, GLAAD award nominated blogger, writer, and award winning trans human rights advocate.

She’s the founding editor of TransGriot, and her writing has appeared at the Bilerico Project, Ebony.com, The Huffington Post and the Advocate.

Monica is a 2015 recipient of the Virginia Prince Transgender Pioneer Award.  Monica was a GLAAD Media Award Outstanding Blog Nominee in 2014.

Angelica Ross

Angelica Ross
Angelica Ross

twitter.com/angelicaross
Like Dane, Angelica Ross wears multiple has.  She is perhaps known best one of the stars of the web series Her Story, a role that has garnered her widespread acclaim exploring dating and relationship issues for trans and queer women.

She is also the founding CEO of TransTech Social Enterprises. TransTech is an incubator for LGBTQ Talent with a focus on economically empowering the T, transgender people, in our community.  TransTech provides services including online community and trainings, helping individuals get the tech credentials they need to pursue or grow their careers.

Fallon Fox

Fallon Fox
Fallon Fox

twitter.com/fallonfox

Fallon Fox is an American mixed martial artist (MMA). She is the first openly African American transgender athlete in MMA history.

Prior to her career in MMA, Fox had served in the Navy as a operations specialist 2nd class for the U.S.S. Enterprise.  Fallon was ‘outed’ as transgender and endured transphobia coming from some in in the UFC, but was undeterred.  Fallon has become a powerful advocate and role model appearing on ESPN, in the Advocate Magazine, and working as a partner in the Nike #BeTrue campaign.

Dane Figueroa Edidi

Dane Figueroa Edidi
Dane Figueroa Edidi

twitter.com/theladydane

Dane Edidi does it all. She is an actress, author, singer, playwright, poet, and priestess.   A native of Baltimore, Maryland, Dane’s poetry collection Baltimore, a Love Letter was written during and after the Baltimore 2015 Riots. The poem that gives this collection its name is both a beautiful reflection on the city as well as a call to action (it is my personal favorite of all of Dane’s poems).

Dane is the author of several novels and novellas including Brew, the fictional story of a trans teenager, which also draws inspiration from Baltimore where the story is set.

Find out more and buy Dane’s work at: www.ladydanefe.com

Elle Hearns

Elle Hearns
Elle Hearns

twitter.com/soulfreedreams

Elle hearns is a powerful activist, speaker, and community organizer.  Elle began her work organizing black trans women in her hometown of Columbus, Ohio in response to the murders of trans women including  Cemia Dove, Brittney Nicole Kidd-Stergis,Tiffany Edwards, and Betty Skinner.

Her activism brought her to Washington DC where she worked for Get Equal as a regional coordinator.   Elle is known for her leadership on grassroots initiatives including Trans Liberation Tuesday, as well as digital campaigns More Than Marriage, and Raise the Debate.

Elle Hearns has been involved in Black Lives Matter since the very beginning of the movement and currently serves as an organizing coordinator.

Lourdes Ashley Hunter

Lourdes Ashley Hunter
Lourdes Ashley Hunter

twitter.com/hunterlourdes

Healer, orator and academic, Lourdes Ashley Hunter has served as a transformative thought leader and change agent for grass-roots initiatives that impact the economic growth and leadership development of communities disproportionately impacted by state sanctioned violence for over 20 years. Lourdes’ research, curriculum development, global organizing and activism centers healing restoration in social justice change. co-founder and National Director of Trans Women of Color Collective (TWOCC)

Kat Blaque

Kat Blaque
Kat Blaque

twitter.com/kat_blaque

Fans tune in weekly to watch Kat Blaque on youtube, and especially the ongoing True Tea advice series.   With over 100,000 subscribers, Kat has become a powerful voice speaking candidly about feminism, racial justice, and gender identity & expression.

Kat can also be found contributing at Everyday Feminism and Huffington Post Black Voices.

This list is just a beginning.  Which black trans women inspire you and why?  Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Follow Friday: Black Trans Voices
Follow Friday: Black Trans Voices

 

 

5 Steps to Help Prevent Suicide

5 Steps to Help Prevent Suicide

Suicide is an important public health issue for all communities, but especially for the LGBT community. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention reports that “in recent years studies have indicated a higher prevalence of suicide attempts among lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people.” (the full report is available here)

Knowing how to help others gives us confidence to reach out and connect with people who seem to be hurting or having difficulties. Here are 5 simple steps one can take that may ultimately save someone’s life.


Ask: “Are you thinking about killing yourself?” It’s not an easy question but studies show that asking at-risk individuals if they are suicidal does not increase suicides or suicidal thoughts.

Keep them safe: Reducing a suicidal person’s access to highly lethal items or places is an important part of suicide prevention. While this is not always easy, asking if the person has a plan and removing or disabling the lethal means can make a difference.

Be there: Listen carefully and learn what the individual is thinking and feeling. Findings suggest acknowledging and talking about suicide may in fact reduce rather than increase suicidal thoughts.

Help them connect: Save the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline’s number in your phone so it’s there if you need it: 1-800- 273-TALK (8255). You can also help make a connection with a trusted individual like a family member, friend, spiritual advisor, or mental health professional.

Stay connected: Staying in touch after a crisis or after being discharged from care can make a difference. Studies have shown the number of suicide deaths goes down when someone follows up with the at-risk person.

This resource was created by the Center for the Study of Traumatic Stress, and adapted from the National Institute of Mental Health